Fear Factor and Network Marketing


It is said that we were born with only 2 fears-fear of falling and fear of loud noise.By the time we hit our teens we have developed around 4000 fears.It is strange but true that every time we say ‘No’, most of them are generated with an innate fear of either being fooled;being vulnerable;being carried away;of loosing. Our first instinct is to say ‘No’ not because we have a reason but because we have made some fear a part of our DNA and will be passing it onto our scions. How have we crossed these several years day in and day out pregnant with several fears hovering us?As if fear can change the future.But I am sure not having a fear can change the future.

And now I come to network marketing.How much we hate people who reach on to us during our busy lunch hours at office with a catalog! As soon as we see a woman approaching with a glee in her eyes and a catalog in hand, we sprint towards our bathroom and pretend to give a short smile. It is astonishing that how much we hate consultants from a network marketing company but on the other hand we are spending our weekends subtly selling our thoughts, recommending products, giving advice, swearing by a certain esthetician or a mechanic. We never know our friends to whom we are recommending, selling, advising in such confidence might be mumbling ‘Here she goes again’, but because they do not have the option they listen to you and sometimes honor you too.If we do it ourselves why do we hate that woman or a couple who are trying to do just the same for some extra bucks?Here I am not talking about scam companies and  schemes;I am referring to legit network marketing companies.

We would rather run to the most expensive shops and buy stuff from there thinking that’s the real deal. Don’t you think we are fooling ourselves?Everyone in this world wants a piece of that paycheck in your pocket.Nothing wrong in it, you also work for money and this is how economy works.

Why are we so averse to Network Marketing? Is it because we are in fear of opening up to a person with a catalog in hand? Is it because we think that woman will get a commission?But so does the salesgirl at the shop.And so does everyone gets a piece of your paycheck whether its government, retail, your boss and in some cases you! Are you not recommending your colleagues on Linkedin or ask for a recommendation? Linkedin exists because it harps the prospects of network marketing;pear to pear recommendations and that is a legitimate approach.

Many argue that these network marketing consultants have no training then how can they recommend a product? Hear me out, are you trained to advice your friend but you go ahead nevertheless? And when do we listen to the trained consultants, even we have spoken to a financial advisers we always go by our instincts..then why the pretense of not buying from a network marketer just because they have tall claims and have less training?

Some of the great products I have is from network marketing companies and I will never go back to the retail for those specific products. Yes they are little pricey because there is normally a great deal of research that has gone in those products and they are niche’.But they will be the ones to give you more bang for the buck with goodies and discounts because they have eliminated the middle man. The truth is network marketing or Multi- Level Marketing (MLM) is a business model existing since 80 years, tried and tested. It has a catalog because they want to reach directly to the customers. They want to eliminate the overhead costs and the money they make from you as a customer hence redirecting it to the development of the product, therefore better quality for customers and higher compensation for consultants.

If you are a prospective customer then you better start warming up to these consultants because chances are that the way business will be conducted in future.Most of the business start ups now want to eliminate the overhead costs hence dissolving the wholesalers and retailers. So, open up and just don’t say ‘No’ out of a fear. Make sure you have valid reasons.

And if you are a consultant and a network marketer just don’t accept a ‘no’ and be afraid.Dare to ask ‘Why’?

Business is not just jargons, number cracking and predictions. There is a more humane way to do business and you want to ride that wave! Don’t forget everybody needs a human connection! Don’t operate out of fears, operate out of reasons.

Immigrant Faux Pas


You have seen it; you have done it; I have seen it; I have done it; you have someone mention it and I have mentioned it. Yes! You are right, the awkward things we all have been a part of knowingly and unknowingly. As immigrants or friends to immigrants we all have been at that awkward position when we do not know what is normal and what is not? I wish someone had told me about these, when I was a fresh immigrant in Canada. Read on:

  1. Kissing is normal here but staring is not.
  2. Women do feed their babies in a public place, it’s considered normal and acceptable.
  3. Sex is still a taboo.
  4. Even if you do not know anyone, you still have to dress up well; it does speak volumes about your personality.
  5. It is not normal to burp and not say ‘excuse me’.
  6. Please do not make an accent and roll your ‘rrrrrr’.Anyone can make out you are faking it.
  7. Yes, people do notice the color of your teeth.
  8. The ‘F’ and ‘S’ word is not tolerable.
  9. Retirement homes are not because children don’t care about their parents; it’s just a way of life at that age here.
  10. Staying healthy is not a choice but a necessity as there is no help; to each his own.
  11. In summers it’s not called ‘skimpily dressed’, it’s called ‘appropriately dressed’.
  12. It is rude to ask salary package (as against to it being completely normal In India).
  13. It is OK to be honked at and honk in a situation of careless driving.
  14. Phrase ‘Good for you’ is not impolite. There is no hidden meaning in it.
  15. Gifts are only for special occasions.
  16. Perfumes are a problem sometimes.
  17. You have to ask before trying to hold a baby or pat a pet.
  18. Keeping and marking a calendar is not a pretense but is a requirement.
  19. It is standard to ask for what you deserve.
  20. ‘Name dropping’ is not needed.

Above all:


Why does my work space work for me?


photo courtsey: http://www.home-designing.com               (Its not my room)

It’s a place that is my mecca. It’s where none can question me; I am the undisputed queen; my no-judgment zone; where I can talk to Bill Gates without getting nervous. My workspace is basically my HOT TUB.

The walls are painted in white with the dark wood table and bookshelf juxtaposed against each other. The books are numerous and not at all arranged according to their subject. They look like colorful cigarettes in a pack. I have a small and simple lamp. Beside it is a small glass vase with blue glittering sand and white tuberose flowers in it. My seat overlooks a window where I can see people and observe them in their busiest times and at their leisure moments too. I have a whiteboard against my table, which has stood the test of time, it is full of my beautiful photographs, cards and even tickets to my first movie with my husband. My stationary is all over the place with colors, pens, pencils everywhere. The newspapers and scrapbook of my favorite articles always open. Now most important the picture on a big white wall that sticks alone and keeps me going every day that says ‘This too shall pass’. So, I keep in mind that life is like flowing like a river. When happy moments haven’t stayed then why sad moments will and this will pass. I look at it and then return to my coffee mug that says ‘Put on your invisible crown’.

This is one place that works for me because it makes me come to life again. I love it. Why does your work space work for you?

Daily Prompt: History of Language


Third time is a charm!

There is something mysterious about number 3. It is just enough by the borderline.For example if one is on a diet and has one cookie, he/she thinks ‘it was nice to try it’;the second time they have it ‘I cant have just one, I need to have just one more’;the third time they eat it, they say ‘OMG this is indulgence and enough’.So, number 3 is just enough.

English stackexchange says that it has an origin from the writings of Shakespeare from ‘The merry wives of Windsor’ 1602.Google  can date back its origin to English Law or even in some searches to 13th century.The truth is not one answer can tell where this phrase comes from?. Its like knowing that lake meets a river, a river meets the ocean and who does ocean meet?No one knows.There are many proverbial stories about where did this phrase come from? I do not want to delve into that as its a jungle out there. That is why language in itself is so intriguing.It does not have a certain origin.We can just build references to its usage but the origin itself is unknown.Just like not one picture can tell you that how an egg became a butterfly likewise no one instance can tell us who coined this phrase.There can be endless possibilities that a primitive man or even an ape might have tried to make fire by rubbing two pieces of stone and would have failed two times and would be successful in making fire the third time.Or it may also be concurred that this phrase is a part of an ‘oral tradition’ passed on from times immemorial from one generation to other.

I feel that three is just the certainty of sorts, where one and two cannot decide, generally third can arrive at conformity. It is possible that scientists feel that three is easy to remember whether we see it or hear it thrice.May be its property of being odd makes it indisputable.

Some food for thought.Why do we always say ‘I am the odd one out’? Why is it always about ‘Location location location’;Why is it we use ‘Try Try and try’? Why is there a Holy Trinity?;Why does Canada’s national flag has maple leaf with 3 sides?Why does USA’s flag has three colors red blue and white?

Whatever it is, its mysterious and nothing in this life is certain, so is language.